Friday, August 23, 2024

mindless middle age

 Now that I am a 41-year-old working mom-of-two, with the personality that I operate with, I find that I deeply enjoy the chance to truly zone out.   Several recent experiences highlighted just how pleasant this is for me.  

First, at the beginning of the summer D, my mom and I took a trip to New York City and we were part of a tour group, which was a new experience for me.   There were many good aspects of our multi-generational tour, but for me, the contrast between the first 48 hours of the trip, before the tour, and the beginning of the guided tour was stark.   I became a mental passenger, instead of the one responsible for figuring out priorities, routes and timelines.   I got to look at the sights, chitchat and follow blindly while turning off my planning brain.   

Secondly, I've gone to a few HIIT (high intensity interval training) classes this summer.  I did similar classes before and during my pregnancy with Dd and it is a format I like.   While I absolutely dither and agonize about whether I have time for the class and whether my body feels good enough to do the class, once I am in the room, I am pretty darn happy.   The instructor provides music and calls out which exercises to do and again, I don't have to think at all.   Each activity is about 30 seconds to one minute long, usually in repeated circuits and there is no counting of reps or deciding what to do next.   

Lastly, I rode the Microsoft Connector into the office the other day and I was a passenger in a more literal sense than in NYC or my exercise class.   A brisk 0.7 mile morning walk, followed by a comfortable seat on a reliably punctual, quiet bus driven by a professional is quite relaxing.   It almost, but not quite, makes me miss having a commute.   It's been about six years since I went in to an office with any regularity and while it saves a lot of time, there is no mental down time to transition from family and home to work and back again.  

In a more general observation, I love the chance to walk or talk (or both) while losing track of time.   I'd like to incorporate this kind of mindfulness, or perhaps mindlessness, into my life more often.  

broken arms, times three

In an annoying and dramatic twist, our spring '23 plans were disrupted by the unfortunate coincidence of three broken arms.

May 15, bright and early the day after Mother's Day, D and I decided to cycle to his school for bike to school month.   Just two days earlier, on a ride to Mercer Island with Becky, my bright pink primary bike spontaneously dropped its derailleur (apparently from prior damage I hadn't noticed, such as bouncing around on our bike rack) so it was in the shop.   Therefore, I was riding my white electra cruiser which I had only hung on to because its upright posture makes me and my forearms (which I hurt while biking in 2009) much more patient while riding super-duper slowly with kids on single speed bikes.  Dd just learned to ride a pedal bike, so I thought I'd keep my cruiser for one more season.   

Jumping back to the ill-fated Monday morning bike ride to school, I was ironically bested by the upright position of this bike's handlebars that spares my forearms from strain while I'm riding slowly.   I decided to carry D's lunch bag on my handlebars because neither of us could fit it in our backpacks.  On a path through a park, going up a slight incline I wobbled the lunch-bag-laden handlebars, which steer more sensitively than a normal bike, over-corrected and fell off to the left side of the bike.    

I remember yelling as I fell, but that was all I had time for.   My left arm flew out and I landed on my left elbow with my arm almost extended, fracturing my left shoulder (upper humerus, really).   I rolled on to my stomach and then managed to flip to my back, but after that I mostly was thinking about how I did not want to even attempt to move my left arm.     D came back down the hill and a passersby offered to call an ambulance and moved my bike off the path.  I knew I hadn't hit my head and I was almost unscathed aside from my left arm, so I declined the emergency call.  The ride to school is so short that I had almost hadn't brought my phone, but fortunately I had it, so we called Jack and for the second time in three days he brought the car to rescue me and my bike.   

You may recall that D broke his left arm in April '22 and it took us an embarrassingly long time get the x-ray that diagnosed a break.  That experience inspired me to go to the XR for an X-ray, right after we dropped D off at school.  It hurt a lot, obviously, and I was pretty sure something big was wrong.   The ER doc said it didn't look broken though, so then I worried that I had ligament damage for the next two weeks until I was able to see a sports med doc who said it did look broken, based on an ultrasound.   I had a second set of x-rays and the fracture was confirmed.   

I started PT at day 17 and at the 5-week post-injury mark, I started to feel much better.   After 6 weeks, I felt okay to drive on the freeway again.  Fortunately, I was able to work after a few days by lifting my arm into place on the keyboard.

Derek was the second to break his arm.   Memorial Day weekend we had planned a camping trip at Deception Pass and I didn't feel up to going.  Crawling around a tent and sleeping on the ground did not sound pleasant.   Jack heroically took both kids without me and met up with his cousin and his family.   Five minutes after getting out of the car on Friday night, the 29th, the kids took off on their scooters and D almost immediately fell off and caught himself on his outstretched hands.   We now know his right forearm was fractured, but again, it took a long time to work that out.  He was definitely hurt but it didn't seem that bad.   He got back on the scooter, crawled around on rocks at the beach and camped two nights with his fractured arm.  It was still swollen when they came home late Sunday afternoon, but it was hard to tell how bad it was.   

We were a bit confounded by the fact that D had a slightly elevated temperature (1.5 degrees higher) every evening from Sunday through Wednesday or Thursday and was absolutely wiped out.   It wasn't a fever by most definitions, but it was like a switch flipped each evening and he started to feel badly.   We didn't want to go to the ER and be grouped with people who probably did have covid and the receptionist at our doctor's office said we couldn't be seen in person because of his temperature.   Friday, one week after his injury, when the swelling had gone down enough to see a curve in his right forearm (!!) we ended up with a video appointment and that provider gave us a referral for an x-ray over the weekend.   He got his fracture diagnosis in about 9 days.   

The doctor recognized that summer is miserable in a cast, so she let him wear a molded plastic brace that he was allowed to wear in a pool and to remove briefly while bathing.   He also got to wear a lighter brace while sleeping, which made him much more comfortable.


Lastly, on June 10th my mom fractured her arm while climbing a dicey ladder on to a coast guard ship that allowed the public to come aboard.   She slipped and smashed into the hull.  Remind me not to get osteoporosis.   I don't have as much detail on this one, but she is tough and healed pretty well.



Sunday, May 28, 2023

Birding

 Since having kids, I haven’t explored many new hobbies. However, starting in the spring 2020 during the Covid lockdown I became interested in identifying birds.   I haven’t yet bothered with binoculars, so I’m not terribly serious about it but I use an app on my phone called Merlin Bird ID. I enjoy learning the names of the birds.  

As Christian Cooper, the now famous Black, birder wrote in New York Times, the other day, birding can be done anywhere.  This is a beautifully written piece by him. https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/26/opinion/birds-freedom.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

My "spark bird" is the California scrub jay.  Here is a picture of one from the Merlin Bird app.  



Today I saw another California scrub jay and a northern flicker on a walk and a pair of hummingbirds on our roof, which is quite gratifying to me, since I have been trying to attract pollinators.

Tuesday, May 2, 2023

technology at work

Jack and I are both experiencing technological leaps at work.    Large language models are making AI more and more powerful and alarming.   This is mainstream news now: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/01/technology/ai-google-chatbot-engineer-quits-hinton.html?smid=url-share

About two weeks ago I started using GitHub Copilot which is an AI programming partner.   It learns from a user's own programming style and makes suggestions based on what it sees that you are trying to do or what you describe in a comment, spitting out quick code snippets that are amazingly accurate.

When architects design a remodel, they have to first accurately model the existing house and ideally environmental things like trees, as well.   Jack's firm has some kind of laser thing they can set up that makes a point could that they can then incorporate into the Revit model.    You can see the level of detail in these screen shots he took yesterday.






Disneyland

 We spent a couple of days at Disneyland at the beginning of mid-winter break.   Jack and I both felt some trepidation about the long days waiting in line with kids and in the end we had more fun than we expected.   D went with Jack's parents, just before he turned four and retained a few memories.   I hadn't been since I was about 17 on my high school band trip and Jack had stayed away even longer than that.   

The kids also hadn't been on an airplane since our Azores+Boston trip in February 2019, so the actual travel part was fun for them too.   We left home Friday morning and spent Friday morning at Downtown Disney, which didn't exist list time I went.   It's basically a sparkly outdoor mall where you go through Disney security but don't need a ticket to enter.   We picked up some dinner by our hotel, brought it in and enjoyed eating it outside, followed by dessert, a Lego store visit and some live music.   It was a nice low-key start to the trip.  Jack and D walked out in front of our hotel to see the Friday night fireworks while Dd and I slept.

Saturday morning, we went to California Adventure and stayed about 11 hours.   I expected to get Dd a stroller part-way through the day, but then I learned you can't bring them with you while you're in line, so it didn't seem as helpful.   Thankfully Jack can still carry Dd on his shoulders without suffering too much, so that's what we did.   We paid extra for Genie which allows you to get in a fast line for most rides, about once every two hours.  It was well worth the price.   

Prior to this trip, poor pandemic-raised Dd had never been on any kind of ride at all.   He's not generally a fearful kid, but he'd never been tested in this way before.   Our first ride was the Mator tractor ride, which is like the teacups.   Fortunately, he liked it.   He and I waited about 70 minutes in line for a Toy Story arcade-type ride, that was not exciting enough to merit the wait, but that was the only really long wait we had on Saturday.   We split up a few times into pairs.   D rode the The Incredicoaster , which accelerates quite fast and loops upside down, two times, once with each of us.   Goofy's sky school was a good smaller roller coaster, with a relatively short line.   All four of us rode once and D and I went back for a second ride.   We ended the night on the big Ferris wheel, in the dark.    Later that night Jack and I got to go down to the hotel hot tub while D watched TV and Dd slept, an exciting parenting milestone for us.

Sunday, we visited Disneyland itself.  There are quite a few Star Wars things, which made me quite glad D has watched several of the movies with Jack.   For my part, I had trouble retaining the names of all the similar sounding Space-thingy rides.....  We started out on the Millennium Falcon: Smugglers Run , which was definitely too much for Dd.   D was screaming "pull up! steer up!" at him while the spaceship looked and felt like it was crashing repeatedly.   Dd didn't have nightmares or anything, but he said a few things about not wanting to drive a rocket again.   


Friday, January 27, 2023

Dd turns 4!

During a fortuitous gap in the wildfire smoke of fall 2022, we celebrated Dd's 4th birthday party at Seward park.   It was his first party including friends.   We had yummy bahn mi and cake from a place in along Rainier Ave.    Kids brought bikes and scooters, played on the big toy and enjoyed the water fountain that looks like an old well.   Towards the end we had a great game of duck duck goose.   Our friends Read and Anne met our friends Teri and Daniel for the first time with all four present at the same time.   My parents were away on a trip to Croatia but the other grandparents and aunts and uncles were there, for the most part.   Our gift to Dd was a big box of wooden train set pieces.   Also pictured is Dd's brownie celebration at school and a selfie of me and him on the morning of his birthday, just so that I'm represented too :)











Thanksgiving in Westport

This year for Thanksgiving we bucked tradition and spent several days in Westport, WA on the Pacific coast.  I had a pretty bad cough, but we stayed in our bubble, took it pretty easy and I think the fresh air was good for me.   We had one day in the middle with beautiful weather.   We ordered some delicious Thanksgiving food from a meal delivery service and brought it with us.

We had a good walk on the waterfront path, that included some silly bickering (can't remember what it was about...) and the kids really liked the small family-run aquarium and the fish and chips we had on the last day.






 

Saturday, January 14, 2023

2022 Year in Review

Here are the kids at the beginning and end of 2022.  They've grown a lot but their faces aren't changing so much anymore.




Reading, Watching and Thinking

  • D and I went to Cirque du Soleil in March
  • Jack and I finally watched Hamilton for the first time on our big screen at home, thanks to Disney+.
  • Valiant Ambition about Benedict Arnold reassured me that I can listen to narrative non-fiction audiobooks and still get a lot out of them.   Reading this book while we watched Hamilton was a fun overlap.
  • My book club met sporadically and we read some great books including Beloved, Born a Crime, The Sentence, The Bad Muslim Discount and Cloud Cuckoo Land.
  • Together Jack and I read  several more Youth in Revolt series novels.   We read the first one in high school and the latest book was set in the pandemic.
  • D read up a storm all year, including the following series, which I want to remember for Dd in a few years: Spy School, Spirit Animals, Wings of Fire, A Series of Unfortunate Events, Percy Jackson, The Lost Rainforest and The Mysterious Benedict Society.  Jack read him The Giver and Lord of the Rings.   I read him Swallows and Amazons and the second book in the same series.  It has been fun to see him open up to a wider variety of genres.
  • We're working on James and the Giant Peach with Dd, which was also D's first read-aloud chapter book (Grand Adventure: D’s first chapter book! (aglie.blogspot.com) ).   Charlotte's Web didn't take.
  • Dd has a fine attention span for play, such as pretending a plastic plate is a Roomba vacuum for 30 minutes, but his interest in TV only lasts about 15 minutes.   He likes the idea of watching a show or a movie but in practice doesn't seem to like them.   He may be on the cusp of watching longer, as we're part way through Frozen II now and he likes it.   This obviously isn't a big problem and might be because we haven't offered him toddler drivel....
  • D, Jack and I went to a virtual reality exhibit called The Infinite, where we wore VR goggles and explored the international space station.   It was my first time doing anything like it and it was impressive.  Thanks to Jack's parents for the gift and mine for watching Dd in Tacoma while we went.
  • I've become way less on top of organizing our pictures and I write about three blog posts in my head for every one that I manage to publish.   Such is life.

School, Work and Learning

  • D finished up a normal, in-person year of 2nd grade and started 3rd grade.   It has been nice for him to have some of the same kids in his class from year to year and he has done well in school.
  • Dd keeps on moving through the rooms at the daycare/preschool he has been at since he turned one.   Birthday parties are back so it has been nice to get to know some of the other families that way.   He's quite interested in words and letters and we're excited to see what the next year brings.
  • D's been doing Zoom piano lessons for over a year now and he and I are quite happy about it.
  • Jack and I both passed the 10 year mark at our current jobs.   Grand Adventure: job updates and a reflection on ten years (aglie.blogspot.com).   He is leaning in and became the second partner in his firm at the beginning of 2022.   I leaned out and asked to work 80% time (and pay) starting in August 2022.   It has been wonderful to have some time to myself and a buffer for getting life stuff done.

Travel

  • We actually used our passports this year, and Jack and I got on a plane for the first time since 2019.
  • February: after a really tough January, with Omicron all around us, we spent five nights in a cabin on the east side of Lake Wenatchee, near Leavenworth, with my parents.   We snowshoed a couple of times and Jack snowboarded at Stevens Pass two days also.
  • March: Jack and I went to Mexico for three nights without the kids, using our airline travel credit. baja mexico
  • April: during spring break we stayed in yurts at Cape Disappointment alongside Jack's cousin and his family.   We learned about Lewis and Clark, Dd dug in the sand for hours and it snowed as we drove home!
  • May: over Memorial Day weekend we camped at Birch Bay state park with our friends.  It was the first time Dd slept decently while camping (at age 3.5) and the three big kids had free reign of the campground on their bikes for the first time.
  • June: we took a fabulous 11 day road trip with our bikes in Idaho, Alberta and British Columbia. https://aglie.blogspot.com/2022/07/2022-road-trip-with-bikes.html
  • August: for the week of daycare closure we got an airbnb on the beach near the ferry dock on Vashon and grandparents babysat some so we got some work done
  • November: we spent a quiet Thanksgiving at a cabin on the coast in Westport
  • December: we had a quick visit to my cousin's farm in Ridgefield, WA and saw several other family members in one visit
  • December: for the last few days of the year we visited Vancouver for the second time in 2022.  My parents and our friends joined us and Jack and D snowboarded at Cypress Mountain.
  • I really like going to Washington beaches, as you can see from this list.

Home

  • Our biggest home improvement project was installing a bunch of stuff on the ceiling of our dining area, including a fan, lights and a projector screen.
  • We also got a portable air-conditioned after the heat wave of 2021 and used it 3-4 days this past summer.   With the increasing heat and frequency of fires that necessitates closing the windows it is good to have something to bring it down a few degrees.
  • Our washer also broke so we got a new washer and dryer.
  • We learned to not attempt projects in the summer because of baseball and all the other fun things going on.

Health

  • Dd's age group was finally eligible to be vaccinated at the beginning of the summer covid update - day *5 million and he got a booster in December, which has made us more relaxed.  
  • He had pinkeye and then I got it over Christmas.
  • We still haven't had Covid as far as we know, but I've had some bad lingering coughs.
  • D broke his arm just before his baseball seasons started but was playing before the end of the season.
  • Dd finished the last part of the autism study he's been in for several years, helping other kids' health.



Friends and Family

  • No friends or family had babies this year and we didn't attend any weddings or graduations.
  • Jack's great aunt, Patti, passed away suddenly in the spring.
  • My sister, brother-in-law and parents all got Covid from travel but no one got terribly sick.
  • My friend Jessica visited from Chicago and we had a beautiful weekend out and about in early November.
  • Jack's grandma had a big 90th birthday party!

Recreation and Sports

  • Jack's team won the championship for PSSBL and Derek played kid-pitch for the first a big year for baseball 
  • I sailed 3 times and windsurfed once at Sand Point sailing in Lake Washington.   I had a cough that made me miss my final check-out for the quest boat we were in and I never managed to get back there during the rest of the summer.   Maybe I will in 2023.
  • D worked hard at swimming and Dd also made some small progress: summer of swimming.   By the end of the year D was jumping off the diving board (at the amazing pool in Vancouver).
  • Dd and I went to our last session of Sunshine Music Together.   He was one of the older kids but it was a fun experience on Saturdays in the spring.
  • D also played fall soccer with the same team of the last few years.   At 8 kids are already breaking out in to higher levels of play.
  • Dd got a bigger strider bike (he's so tall) and got the hang of balancing on it over the spring and summer.

Climate Conscience

  • I highly recommend the book Under the Sky We Make which I finished in last January.
  • I did some research on divesting our investments from fossil fuels, but haven't actually made changes yet
  • We bought only recycled TP in 2022 (from Who Gives a Crap)
  • And we bought an awesome EV in October: electric blue 


Me and Jack at the UW cherry blossoms, just so we're depicted here


a big year for baseball

 


Jack played on two teams in the PSSBL this year, an 18+ team and a 30+ team, created in partnership with the younger team.   Four people played on both teams, and they share uniforms and occasional practices and get-togethers.   He was the manager of the 18+ team, which won the league!   He also was the commissioner for one of the divisions, which he's done for a few years.  It was a busy season.  

Jack's been on the same team with a few people for 10 years now and as they all age, they're almost ready for a 40+ team (several already are 40+).   He stepped away from being commissioner but will probably stay on as the manager of the 18+ for another year.   His division has minimum playing time in the regular season, so that adds complexity to the manager's job.    This year also included more conflict than is typical as the PSSBL which is pretty well organized, and people usually act like adults.   Anyway, all that meant that Jack wore a lot of hats this season, so to speak.


He coached D's first year of kid pitch in the spring, another thing that probably won't happen next year.   The week before the season started, D broke his arm, but Jack was already signed up to coach.   By the second half of the season D was playing fine and thankfully a few people stepped up to assistant coach.   Kid-pitch seems pretty tough though and the teams were fairly imbalanced in skill level.   


Dd's baseball was limited to our boite.

Lastly, the Mariners made the playoffs so the season went much later than usual, and we watched some very tense games (from home).

Friday, December 16, 2022

moussaka

This is a decadent, time consuming recipe.   It is also funny because the food network says it requires 15 min of prep time and a total time of 1 hr 35 min.   Maybe I'll time us as we make it this coming weekend.   I estimate 4 person hours.   This quantity is supposed to serve 8-10 people.  Because of the packaging size of  ground meat we often make a 1.25 version of this recipe.


  • 3 large eggplants, peeled and sliced into 1/4 inch slices
  • 1.5 c olive oil
  • 3 large baking potatoes, peeled and sliced into 1/4 inch think slices
  • 1.25 c. flour
  • 5 tbs unsalted butter
  • 1 medium onion, finely chopped
  • 3/4 lbs ground lamb
  • 3/4 lbs ground beef
  • 1 tbs minced garlic
  • 1/2 tsp dried oregano
  • 1/4 c dry red wine
  • 2 tbs tomato paste
  • 1/2 c. crushed tomatoes
  • 1/2 c. water
  • 2 tbs minced fresh parsley leaves
  • 1/2 c. salt  (for saltwater), plus more for seasoning
  • ground black pepper
  • 2.5 c. milk
  • 1 egg 
  • 1 egg yoke
  • 1 1/3 c. grated Kefalotiri cheese, or Parmesan or Romano
  1. soak eggplant slices in saltwater for 20 minutes.   Drain and pat them dry.
  2. heat 1/2 c. olive oil in large skillet and cook potato slices until lightly golden on both sides (3-4 minutes).   Cook them in batches.  Cool and drain them on paper-lined plate.  Season lightly with salt.
  3. place 1 c. flour in a bowl and dredge the eggplant slices in flour.  Shake off excess.   Add another 1/4 c oil to skillet and fry eggplant until golden on both sides (2-3 min per side).   Cook in batches.   Cool and drain on paper-lined plate.
  4. melt 2 tbs butter in large skilled and then add onions.  Cook 4 min until tender.   Add ground meats, garlic and oregano and cook until meat is browned (4-6 min).  Add red wine and cook until evaporated.  Add tomato paste and stir for 1 min.   Add crushed tomatoes, water and parsley and cook 5-10 min, stirring occasionally, until almost all liquid is evaporated.    Add salt and pepper.
  5. melt 3 tbs of butter in medium skilled.  Once hot whisk in remaining 1/4 c. flour and cook 2-3 min while stirring.  Gradually whisk in the milk, stirring until smooth and thick.   Add salt and pepper.  Whisk in egg and egg yoke.   Stir in 1/2 cup of cheese.   Cover and set aside.
  6. preheat the oven to 350. Lightly grease 9 x 13 inch casserole dish.
  7. place slide potatoes in the bottom of dish in an even layer.  Top with half of the eggplant and half of the meat sauce.   Spoon 3/4 c. of the bechamel sauce evenly over the meat and sprinkle with 1/2 c of cheese.   Top with remaining eggplant, pressing down to compress layers.   Top with the remaining meat sauce and spread the remaining bechamel sauce evenly over the top.   Sprinkle with remaining cheese.
  8. Bake, uncovered until golden brown on the top and heated through.   50 min to 1 hour.   Let stand for 40 minutes before cutting into squares.

Monday, October 31, 2022

electric blue

Earlier this month we upgraded to a new electric car!  Since we are a one-car household with a very tight parking space, we had a lot of constraints.

  • 4 wheel drive
  • all-electric with a good range
  • not much bigger than the RAV4
  • turning radius similar to the RAV4
  • rear-hatch that works under the overhang of our house
  • comfortable for tall people
We considered Teslas and the Polestar but they didn't fit our parking constraints so we ended up with the well-reviewed Hyundai Ioniq 5.  Although we never planned to buy a new car, the dearth of used cars pushed us towards this surprisingly big purchase.   Jack saw one or two used but the price was basically the same as the new cars and they were in far flung locations.  Even buying a new one was tricky as there are not very many yet and they are sold before they arrive at dealerships.     

On a Monday morning, Jack got a text from a dealership in Edmonds about a car someone had changed their mind about so we dropped everything and went to check it out.   We actually bought it without driving it ourselves first because we didn't have enough insurance.   After that is was several hours of paperwork and phone work to unfreeze Jack's credit, upgrade our insurance and trade in our old car.   Thankfully we had Jack's mom babysitting that evening already so getting home late was ok.

The trunk capacity is similar to the RAV4 but it's more horizontal so it holds a Costco load more nicely.   Camping or weekend trips will push the car to the limit, but that's just a fact of life and a trade off we're accepting.


The 2014 RAV4 was a great car that we bought out of necessity before Dd was born in 2018 (https://aglie.blogspot.com/2018/08/vroooooom.html).   I think if we'd had more funds available at that time we would have bought a slightly newer hybrid version of the same car.   Hopefully this Ioniq lasts us for many, many gas-free years.  

I should note that we know electricity still isn't totally carbon free and we thought a lot about how we use the car, what we need and what it means to replace a functional car with one that had to be built out of raw materials.    Here's what our Seattle City Light electricity sources look like:





Wednesday, September 21, 2022

summer peach tomato salad

This recipe, from the NYtimes, is the breakout new hit recipe of the last year or so in our household.   I believe my mom directed us to it last summer.


Ingredients for salad
  • 12-14 oz silken tofu, chilled
  • 2-3 ripe medium peaches
  • 3-4 ripe medium tomatoes
  • flaky sea salt
  • 1/4 c packed fresh basil leaves
  • 2 tbs fresh mint leaves
  • black pepper

Ingredients for dressing

  • 3 tbs evo
  • 1 tbs balsalmic
  • 1 tbs unseasoned rice vinegar
  • 1 tbs seasame oil
  • 2 tsp soy sauce
  • 1 tsp sugar
Steps
  1. drain and blot tofu by wrapping in a paper towel
  2. cut peaches and tomatoes in 1-inch thick wedges
  3. place fruit on a platter, including the juices from the cutting board
  4. sprinkle with salt
  5. scoop tofu in mounds on top of the fruit, add salt
  6. mix dressing in a shakable jar and spoon 4 tbs on the salad
  7. chop the herbs and add them to the top
  8. add pepper

summer of swimming!

D has been technically able to swim since last year (https://aglie.blogspot.com/2021/08/d-can-swim.html) but still has room to improve and, of course, Dd, at almost four, is at an age where he could start learning as well.   This summer, we tried to swim as often as possible and I made a point of trying out many different pools since our closest pool was, once again, out of commission.

Please forgive the following overly detailed saga about our neighborhood pool... 

The city pool near us was closed for renovation for almost an entire year, re-opening in Dec 2019, a few months before covid hit Seattle.  Then, it closed in March 2020 and only re-opened to children in summer 2021.   About six months later, in mid-February 2022 it closed again, purportedly for two weeks for mechanical and electrical repairs.   The big Omicron surge in winter 2021-2022 made indoor swimming seem too risky, so the last time we swam there was around Thanksgiving 2021.  That two week closure was extended three or four times throughout the spring, due to difficulty getting parts.   Eventually, combined with the national shortage of lifeguards, the city announced that the pool would be closed through the summer.

As frustrating as this pool's recent years have been, I do understand that many things are out of the city and pool management's control, like the supply chain issues, covid and the lifeguard shortage.   However, reflecting on the amazing aquatic center we visited in Vancouver and the challenge of finding local pools with reasonable swimming schedules, I've come to realize that pools are just too expensive and can only thrive in a state-sponsored environment.   Yes, I am a swimming socialist.   

Swimming feels like a very elite thing here and now in Seattle, rather than a healthy and fun life skill that should be available to anyone and everyone.   In addition to the experience we recently had in Canada, I remember visiting an incredible and expansive pool in Germany when I was 10 and our friend, who grew up in Germany, remarked that he was also surprised by how limited swimming opportunities are here.   It's not just the locations of pools but also the hours.   There, pools are more like libraries, where you can drop in during normal business hours rather than during a few short, select windows of time throughout the week.   

Boston was a lot like Seattle in this regard.  There was a public pool less than a mile from where we lived that closed just before we got there because repairs were just too expensive.    I dabbled with various YMCA pools there, which ranged from nicer pools at new Ys in the suburbs, to ridiculous 20-yard pools closer in to the city.   We didn't have a car, so accessing decent pools was even harder and it is no wonder many lower-income people just can't swim.

Anyway, enough about swimming in general.   Let me tell you about where we swam this summer and how the kids progressed.

In late March I re-joined the Y again, with the kids, instead of with Jack, who mostly was at baseball while we went swimming.  As I've mentioned, the Y no longer requires kids to wear life jackets so it is a fine place to swim, although the only open swim times over the summer were Friday evening and mid-day Saturday and Sunday, which are easy to miss for other activities.

Group lessons before a kid can swim a little bit on their own have proven to be pointless, but I decided to sign D up for lessons at the Y to improve on his basic skills.   At a minimum, he got to get in the water on a Tuesday evening, when he otherwise would not have been allowed.   He learned a little and got some practice in and it was awesome that I was able to swim laps at the time.   It's hard to talk myself out of a swim, when the alternative is just sitting there waiting for the lesson to end :)   D also did 3-4 private lessons, which were pretty good, but are expensive and can only be scheduled in a competitive, early morning registration frenzy, once a month.



In addition to our local Y, the kids and I swam in wide variety of pools.

  • Jack's uncles' pool in Auburn, with cousins, once in the late spring and again in late summer


  • Lake Washington - this was only me and my sister while windsurfing and falling in repeatedly
  • Radium Hot Springs in Alberta, which had both a warm pool and a regular pool with a water slide
  • our hotel in Alberta
  • Okanogan Lake in BC
  • Hillcrest Aquatic center in Vancouver, BC, which is the nicest pool I've ever been too, with a divided 50-yard pool alongside a 45 yard activity pools (super shallow at some points, a lazy river, etc), a large hot tub and an additional outdoor pool just outside the doors pictured below


  • our family friend's beach on Angle Lake, which is an awesome, clean lake

  • Mounger pool, an outdoor city pool in Magnolia that I had never been to
  • Great Wolf Lodge - only Derek went with his grandparents
  • Cottage Lake YMCA pool, outdoors with a water slide
  • Normandy Park pool, where I learned to swim and started swim team, courtesy of an invitation from a friend.   Seeing my friend's three year old independently jump off the diving board really made me think about opportunities and access.
  • Vashon community pool, which also had a slide and some fun foam platforms

  • Colman pool, a 50-yard, public, outdoor, saltwater pool, buried deep within Lincoln Park, which I hadn't been to since I was about 12 years old
  • Bellevue YMCA pool
D made lots of progress.  He re-learned to float on his back, which was easier as a chubby 3-4 year old than as a lanky 8 year old and got quite confident at swimming a modified backstroke.  At the end of the summer he started jumping in boldly and doing belly flops.   His freestyle reached the point of getting his arms out of the water consistently, but he's not quite side breathing.   He passed the swim test, earning a wristband, at all of the pools we went to at the end of the summer and got to go in to the deep end where he enjoyed swimming with fins on.



Dd's preference is to motor around on his own with a pool noodle under his arm pits.   He's quite independent and gets to his destinations fine, but I worry he'll accidentally slip off and I doubt he realizes just how much he can't actually swim on his own.    He'll blow bubbles if asked and when he's in the right mood will voluntarily dunk under water on the count of three.   

Two days ago our local pool did in fact, truly, actually re-re-re-open.  We haven't been yet, but the schedule looks relatively good and we are psyched.

Thursday, August 25, 2022

our storied parking spot

Our neighborhood email list is abuzz with the news that multiple seven story apartment buildings are permitted to be built a block and a half west of where we live.  It's been an interesting discussion about environment, neighborhood character, gentrification, equity and the amount of density our neighborhood has been forced to accept.

Mostly we come down in favor of the density, but we're still very grateful to have squeezed in our little parking spot since street parking is about to get very competitive.   Someday we'll have an electric car and a good place to charge it too.   In the meantime, we don't complain about squeezing through bushes as we get out of the car, or having the kids climb through the back seat, entering the car through one door.

For your entertainment here are four bizarre incidents that have taken place in our parking spot.

  1. When D was about 5 he awoke to the sound of a woman singing outside his bedroom window.   For security, we designed the ground-floor windows facing the parking spot small and high up, so D wasn't able to see out them, even while standing on the bed.   D spoke to the woman and she seemed untroubled by his little voice and kept rifling through our car, through a window a kid had accidentally left open.   She didn't find anything worth stealing so no harm done and we had a conversation with him about not confronting thieves.
  2. Cars do get broken in to a lot and there are some weird people passing through our alley, so one night when we heard a knock on the door at about 11:30 pm, we were worried.   It was the police.   They had been passing by and noticed that our car doors were wide open, so they wondered if our car had been broken in to.   Nope!  In a flurry of unloading, Jack had left the doors open and had actually left his wallet in the cup holder.   In this case, any unsavory characters casing cars on the alley probably assumed the car had already been ransacked.  
  3. Sometime in the early pandemic, when life was peculiarly paused, I found a paper bag behind our car, containing the contents of a woman's purse.   There was no wallet, but there was make-up and a glasses case and other odds and ends.  It looked like what a thief would leave behind after taking a wallet and a phone.  I looked through it all and found a receipt for a QFC nearby and I noticed that it had an employee discount applied.   I called the QFC and they found the employee who had recently had her things stolen out of her trunk, instead of her purse, like I thought.   She came and picked up her things and solving a little mystery and doing something kind made me feel good for a few days.
  4. Lastly, earlier this summer, Jack returned home at about 9:30 in the morning after dropping D off at some camp and there was a car parked in our spot with a very naked man standing next to it.   He was not in the process of changing clothes, or thankfully any other unsavory activity, but was just standing there.  Jack hesitantly told him that it was our spot and then drove around the block and by the time he got back, thankfully the man and his car had disappeared back in to the streets of Seattle.

Tuesday, August 16, 2022

90+ records

In July we had a string of six days in a row with highs over 90°.  Last summers extreme heat in late June prompted us to buy an air conditioner over the winter.  Our house, with its many levels does not lend itself to air-conditioning and we view it as a last resort.  We got a portable air conditioner that is insufficient for the space but has the benefit of smaller size and portability.  I think it made the third floor slightly better but it was still about 87° in the kitchen in the evenings. In the case of wildfire smoke where we have to keep the windows closed overnight I think the impact will be bigger.


On the last 90° day we took a very short bike ride with friends.  It was only 4 miles on the Des Moines Creek trail, however it was good to see how easily D biked back up the hill and we get extra points for the hot weather.  It’s a nice shady trail and the breeze on the beach was lovely. It was also nice to catch up with friends.



Then Dd got to cool off with a sweet dog belonging to the kids’ cousin. 


Sunday, July 17, 2022

GG's 90th

About a month ago Jack's grandma had a big 90th birthday celebration.   Now that a few weeks have passed, I can say that it wasn't a super-spreader event, so that's nice too :)   We got some good pictures I want to share here.



GG and her kids

GG and most of her grandkids and great-grandkids


Friday, July 15, 2022

2022 road trip with bikes

On the 4th of July we returned from our longest road trip yet.   Jack and I both took some family road trips as kids but we've never done any long drives together, even without the kids in tow.      This trip was a ten night, counter-clockwise loop from Seattle to Idaho to Alberta to British Columbia.   

Quantitative Overview

  • driving distance from lodging to lodging: 1476 miles  -   daily activities added more miles.
  • gas bill: 1196 - yikes
  • miles biked: 85  - pretty good for a family trip :)
  • longest ride: 36.8  - a one-way, mostly downhill ride!
  • trips between Banff and Canmore: 8   We should have stayed in Banff itself.  Once I forgot the cabin keys at a restaurant and we had to turn around at 11 pm and drive back to Banff again to get them.
  • bike rides: 6  - one was just Jack and D, while I drove the car down the road
  • bears observed: 5  -   2 Grizzlies and 3 black bears, one of which we saw on the side of the road as we biked past it...
  • swims: 4  -  Radium Hot Springs, the hotel pool, Okanagan Lake (Kelowna)  and Hillcrest aquatic center in Vancouver
  • national holidays: 2  - Canada day on July 1 and the 4th of July on our way home
  • rainy days: 2   - drizzles when we were in Banff one day, but not actually on our long ride followed by a downpour on our last day in Vancouver.
  • museums: 1 -  Museum of Anthropology at UBC on a rainy day
  • number of tantrums: 0  -   Awesome!
  • unpatriotic thoughts:  ? ...... quite a few with the combination of national holidays, incredibly low covid rates in BC vs. WA, rolling back of American women's rights and even public investment in swimming pools.   



This was the longest trip we've taken since we went to the Azores in early 2019.  Thank goodness we took that trip when we did, pre-Covid.   It felt awesome to get away from it all - work, home and mostly covid.

Generally, this trip boosted my confidence a lot for future travel.   Dd, at 3.75 years, is at the point where naps aren't essential.   He took a couple, but mostly did fine without them and we didn't spend any time battling him to fall asleep in an unfamiliar and exciting environment.    We also pushed the kids by staying out pretty late several times.  There was lots of daylight and the drives were long.   They handled it like champs, and if you put it in perspective relative to jet lag, staying out until 10 pm isn't so bad.   One surprise success was on the hydration front.   I brought my osprey pack (thank you, Jack) with the hose and soft water bottle and the kids just could not get enough of drinking from it, so we all stayed hydrated.   

Keeping track of our stuff was a challenge.   We lost misplaced Jack's kindle a couple of times and it camoflauges extremely well against bedroom furniture.  Then D inexplicably put it in a drawer at an AirBnB.   Never put things away on vacation!   In the end, I think the only things we lost were a water bottle and two pairs of pyjamas Dd would have outgrown soon anyway.      

Also, our credit card had some fraud on it right when we got home, so that might be a souvenir of the trip as well.    All in all, it was a great trip.

Friday, July 8, 2022

covid update - day *5 million

*5 million is a reflection of how things feel, not real time

It's several months since my last covid update (https://aglie.blogspot.com/2022/01/omicron-update-and-two-years-of-new.html) so here's a snapshot of what life like these days.

Covid continues to be a menace, but we have plentiful rapid home tests now and Dd momentously got his first Moderna shot about two weeks ago.  Also this spring, D got a first booster shot.

Cases are way closer to home now.   At least four or five kids in Dd's class and a similar number of Jack's baseball teammates caught it in May or June.   My mom had a mild case in two weeks ago, presumably thanks to the combination of a flight from virus-riddled Hawaii and a relatively recent booster shot.   Only older people are eligible for a second booster.   Cases among my once-boosted peers are sometimes pretty mild but also pretty gnarly (though so far not requiring hospitalization of anyone I know who was vaccinated).

Seattle Public Schools remained more or less open for all of D's second grade year.   Public health, and thus our daycare, have reduced the duration of isolation and quarantines, so a case in Dd' classroom translates to 2-3 days of missed school for the affected class rather than over a week of shutdown for the whole school, as happened with the first case in November 2021.

The constant string of variants keeps changing the science subtly.   Recently I came across this blog, which is super helpful and informative.  https://yourlocalepidemiologist.substack.com/  . I credit it with helping me choose Moderna over Pfizer for Dd.

We've all (ok, maybe not everyone) become statisticians too now.   I'm still regularly watching the case counts in King County, but like in the early part of 2020, we all know that the official counts are massive undercounts of the real case load.   Therefore, anecdotal impressions of how many people around us are catching us are not a crazy thing to pay attention to.  More and more, studies of covid remnants in sewage provide the most meaningful metrics.  

I'm still afraid of long covid and most things I've read are pessimistic and still based on unvaccinated subjects.   

Some more food for thought on the subject comes from our recent trip to British Columbia and Alberta, Canada.   King County has a "fully vaccinated" rate of 82% while Canada has a rate of 84%.   While the definition of fully vaccinated is a moving target, these numbers come from the New York Times today and I trust they have made a solid effort to report comparable numbers.    In short, our county has taken a civilized approach to vaccination and masking, yet our numbers are shocking compared to our neighbor to the north.     As noted, all of these stats are imperfect, but still there is such a difference it must be significant.     Our trip was the first time I have felt like we were in a post-covid world where we ate indoors at restaurants and went to the grocery store without a mask on.

Could we have similar numbers if King County had been able to close its borders?



Wednesday, May 4, 2022

D turns 8 !

After very small celebrations for D's 6th and 7th birthday, we pulled off a relatively large party for his 8th!    The weather was good, though chilly for some.   You'll notice mask wearing in these pictures, that goes beyond what most of us do outdoors nowadays (2 years and 2 months in to the pandemic).  This is due to that fact that on the day before the party (Saturday) we learned that Dd had a covid exposure in preschool on Friday (and Thursday) but we decided to proceed with the party on Sunday after letting everyone know.   We tested Dd several times, but it was still to early to be definitive and a couple of guests couldn't take the risk of attending.   Happily Dd passed the PCR test he had on Monday.

We reserved a shelter and had costco pizza and cake.   I planned a scavenger hunt that went by in a flash and we played a few other little games like red light, green light and steal the bacon.   The party combined friends and family and we appreciate the help from grandparents!





Jefferson Park has lots of fun things, including drains.
I don't think I'm a germaphobe, but I no longer like the idea of blowing 
on the whole cake everyone else will eat.

The kids climbed on the sculpture before we saw the subtle "no climbing" sign.   The sculpture was created in collaboration with Red Bull as a skateboardable sculpture, but I guess it's been too heavily used in the last 8 years.  https://parkways.seattle.gov/2014/06/23/seattles-first-skateable-art-sculpture-lands-in-jefferson-park/

post party, at home


Why are the cats tired?


Scavenger Hunt Clues

The kids went pretty quick and made some guesses they couldn't explain.   I'll make them harder next time!

  • Take a speedy ride on the
  • What’s curly and red and found to the north?
  • !Ï…oγ É¿oʇ ƨɒʜ γɒઘ ɈoillÆŽ Ɉɒ Ɉυo ϱniÊžool nÉ’mwonƨ ɘnoɈƨ γzoÉ” ɘʜɈ Ɉɒʜw ɘɘƧ
  • For clue number two, slide through a tube that is blue.
  • L _ _ K  IN  THE L _ _ K _ UT   T _ WER