2017 in review

This year was our first complete year at home.  There was less stress and more fun. 

Friends and Family and Pets

• babies born:   Hazel to J&S, Libby to E&R, Graham to R&A, Finley to T&J, Evan A&J, Skylar to M&M, Jakobi to F&B  (5 of 7 are second kids)
• After labor day weekend we adopted Luna and Toru,  who were born at the end of the school year.

• Both Jack’s mom and step dad had surgeries over the summer, and both recovered well.
• Jack’s step mom retired from Boeing.
• After a long year of writing for her last post-doc position, my sister Becky got another post-doc job at UW, which she will start in January.
• The only wedding we attended was Jessica and Adam’s in Ann Arbor, Michigan.
• Jessica visited Seattle in March and she, Rachelle and I went wedding dress shopping.
• Rachel visited from Alaska in August.
• My Texas relatives (mom’s two brothers and some of their families) visited in August during the eclipse.  D met his cousin who is only a couple of months older.

• Our poor older cat had a UTI for a lot of the summer, so she was leaking pee in her sleep, while we were on our first foray into night time potty training with D.  Oh the laundry!  We’ve been lucky to not go to the vet much, but this year made up for lost time between Emo’s infection and the new kittens.
• Jenn and Andreas visited from Boston in July.  We went sailing with my parents and kayaking on Lake Union.

• We became good friends with another family from D’s school and had lots of good times and adventures with them.

House

• We planted got lots of new trees: our Japanese snowbells, an indoor Meyer lemon tree from Jack for my birthday, a lilac tree and our second living Christmas tree, which we hope to keep alive in its pot.  Its collaboratively chosen name is Lefty Righty North Tip.

• The biggest projects we did were planting outdoor plants, fixing the master bathroom lights and building the laundry chute, which are described here and here, along with some other smaller projects.
• We finally got the king sized mattress I’ve been wanting (from Avocado Green Mattress).  We also bought a twin mattress for D on craigslist, so now I can sleep easily because along with our futons, all of our mattresses are natural fibers that are free of flame redardant chemicals. 

Travel

• January: White Pass, near Mount Rainier
• February: We spent another holiday weekend in a yurt at Pacific Beach State Park, while Jack’s parents and nephew stayed there in their trailer.  It rained but had some good beach time nonetheless.  We got to take a long rainy beach walk while D veged in the warm trailer.

• March: We had a sleepover with our friends who moved up to Anacortes, including a nice little hike to Rosario beach, near Deception Pass.

• April: Jack and I made a quick overnight trip to Portland to meet our friends’ new baby, leaving D with grandparents.
• May-June: We headed to Michigan for eight days for Jessica and Adam's wedding 
• July: Our Deception Pass camping trip continued, with three other families.
• July – August: My extended family on my dad’s side put together three sprint triathlon teams for the Whidbey Island triathlon.  LINK
• August: We did *not* go camping in Eastern Washington as planned because of the massive forest fires and smoke.  We set up the teepee in the living room though.
• August: With my mom’s side of the family visiting from Texas, we spent a few days at Fort Worden.
• August: Friday Harbor
• September: The three of us camped at Liberty in the last weekend of the month.  There was frost in the morning and Jack learned that our sleeping bags really are not three season bags.  I enjoyed my new warmer, woman-specific sleeping bag.  Don’t get me started on that subject!     Despite the cold we squeezed in another October day trip with friends before winter.  The 90 minute drive was well worth it, without the hassle of packing all the camping gear.

• October: Scotland, for 2/3rds of the family
• November: We convinced our friends to join us at Seaquest State Park over Veterans’ day weekend, where we went last year as well.  It was chilly, but we had some awesome fires (with some wood we brought from Liberty) and a cold and wet, but rewarding, hike.  We saw two garter snakes!

Recreation and Food

• Fit4Mom – In September I started a high intensity interval training classes with some of my PEPS friends.  It’s great exercise (in my last workout I burned over 700 calories and had an average heart rate of 159 for 50 minutes) in a fabulously supportive environment.  It’s fun to see other women a few times a week and I even have a carpool friend.
• Jack had a good baseball season, where his team finished in a close second place, for the second time in two years.

• D did several sessions of swim lessons and moved in to the three year old class in December where it’s three three-year-olds with one instructor and no parents in the pool.  He also took pre-ballet with a great teacher at the nearby community center.  Kids’ activities that we can walk to are such a treat.

• We joined the Instant Pot (a popular electric pressure cooker) bandwagon.  I’d say we’re using it a couple of times a month and we still have some more to learn.  We’ve made lots of beans, cooked chicken without defrosting it, made soy yogurt, made some delicious vegan soup and even cooked a 6 lb leg of lamb in 90 minutes!
• Volleyball kept going though I stopped going when my PEPS groups started and Jack had a lot of conflicts due to baseball league meetings.
• D started eating grapefruit after his birthday because “when you’re three you like grapefruit.”  We got some serrated grapefruit spoons and have really enjoyed having them for breakfast.
• Our oven worked for most of 2017, which was a treat :)
• I raced in the spring with my dad and often with my sister too!

• We did some hiking.  Distances were pretty short, but D was either walking or being carried on our shoulders so it’s progress.

Reading, Watching and Thinking

• In January and February I took a weekly mindfulness class through Swedish.  It was interesting and powerful and I hope to get around to incorporating more of it in to my life.
• D did winter and summer music classes.  He’s one of the older kids in class now, but still has a blast.
• Best Books
• Jack: The Wind Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami
• Cari: This was my best reading year since D was born, so I’m going to pick two books and say What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty and Tell the Wolves I’m Home by Carol Rifka Brunt, recommended by my sister.
• D: The Magic School Bus books
• C+J read-aloud: we only finished two read-alouds so it’s not a close race, but I’d say it was the umpteenth book in a series we have read together for a long time, Revolt at the Beach by CD Payne.  Note that this doesn’t constitute an endorsement :)
• Best movies and TV:
• Cari: Hidden Figures and Big Little Lies
• D and Jack: Moana!   We watched that, The Lion King and Frozen and Moana was by far the best.  We expected more from Frozen after the hype of a few years ago so we were pretty disappointed.

Work and School and Community

• D reduced his days at the neighborhood daycare/preschool and started a few mornings a week (minus the summer months) at a French immersion preschool.  We’re really happy with the school in general and having fun with the limited French he’s learned.

• Jack designed an apartment building for the first time.  Sadly its financiers pulled out so it will probably never be built.
• I talked myself in to speaking up at work about raises and promotions and got a raise that I am happy with, which may or may not be related to speaking up.
• Jack served as the commissioner for his baseball division and did a good enough job to get to do it again next year.
• I volunteered as a PEPS leader for a 12 week evening newborn group with some awesome new moms and dads.

matrimony in Michigan

Jessica, one of my childhood best friends, who was with me in school from first through twelfth grade, married Adam, in Ann Arbor, in June.  It was a beautiful outdoor ceremony followed by a fun party.  My parents, who also knew Jessica well as a kid, came along and we made it in to a week-long trip in Michigan.

We spent the first night near the detroit airport and went to Belle Isle Park, which is a big island park in the Detroit River, right by downtown.  Then we drove 4+ hours up to Glen Arbor (on the pinky of the Michigan hand), where we stayed in a nice airbnb for several nights.  We did lots of short hikes at and around Sleeping Bear Dunes and the Old Mission Lighthouse.  Our awesome down-stream canoe ride was a nice break from the slow hikes.

Look at all these scofflaws climbing back up the huge dune, past the “Danger” sign!

Then I rented a separate car and dove back to Ann Arbor a day earlier than Jack, D and my parents, for the bridal shower I co-hosted in Gallup Park. Then it was the usual, rehearsal dinner, hair appointment (acutally I have rarely done this for weddings) and the ceremony in the afternoon.

All the childhood wedding planning I did was with Jessica, so this was a long anticipated event and it came through with beautiful and thoughtful vows and details.  Her other childhood best friend, Yasmeen, whom I’ve known from afar after meeting only during one visit when we were eight, and I pulled together a joint speech that I think went well.  There were tears and laughs so that has to count for something.  I also made this photo collage before the wedding.

My immune system carried me grudgingly through the toast but then gave up, relinquishing me to an excruciating sinus infection that was diagnosed when I got home, thus delaying this blog post for ….seven … months. Whoops.

July–December 2017 house projects

Since my last house project post in July, we’ve accomplished a few more house tasks.

• On a lovely fall weekend, before the rain started, we planted heavenly bamboo (nandina, not actually bamboo) and put in rocks for last construction obligation to our neighbors.  We’re lucky to be abe to borrow a truck from Jacks parents for projects!

• On the north side of our house, we planted daphne, rosemary, a yellow blooming lilac and three sarcococca plants.
• We put up a peg board in the basement and organized our tools, which have been in disarray for quite a while.
• Between Thansgiving weekend and New Year’s we built cabinets in our bedroom and and the first floor bathroom, and built a bucket laundry chute.   Thanks for the cabinet help, Mom and Dad!  Dropping the laundry from levels one and two, all the way down to the basement is awesome.

• We’ve had a frustrating and mysterious electrical problems that all seemed to trace back to the vanity lights in the master bathroom.  For over a year we just didn’t turn on the lights to avoid the problem.  Luckily there are other bathroom lights that worked.  Finally this fall, Jack un-wired the almost the whole bathroom to diagnose the problem.  It turned out to be the DC adapter in one of the vanity lights.  After ordering two replacement parts (the first of which wouldn’t fit in to the fixture), Jack re-attached the lights.  Putting up the fixtures is really tricky because of the tight space between the mirror  and the wall.  The first time we did it took us about an hour of working together.  After all the struggles, the threads were stripped so Jack couldn’t use a screw any more.  Jack is optimistic about the utility of hot glue, so he tried that twice without success.  Then he bought these super strong magnets that worked like magic to re-attach the light, perfectly straight, in about 10 seconds.

• This might be a stretch to include in a post about house tasks, but we spent a lot of time on it, so I’ll throw it in.  With three cats our self-flushing litter box was under considerable strain.  We spent a few evenings up to our elbows in *** deep cleaning it in our shower.  Then we ended up installing a second one of the same type in our basement, which takes times too because we use this hacked control board that this guy sells online so that we can avoid buying the cleaning cartridges that are the expensive re-occuring cost for the little box.  There are now NO EXCUSES for not using a litter box correctly!
• We successfully covered the house in Wifi using a 3-pack of mesh routers.  It’s not that the house is so big, it’s just that it is very strangely shaped (5 small levels). We had done the data wiring and, amazingly, we were able to find both ends of enough wires to create a wired connection at all three access points.  In the last, most difficult one (high in the wall in the pantry), Jack re-wired the end dozens of times (he was running out of slack coming out of the wall) before figuring out that his tester was malfunctioning!  Gaah!
• We also had an “anti-project.”  Unfortunately some of our windows are leaking.  Stay tuned for the soltuion…

holiday pomegranate salad

We’ve made the Moroccan Orange Salad from this excellent cookbook, for several holidays in the last five years, including this Christmas.  I like how it tastes but admit that part of the appeal is that it is just so refreshingly pretty.

• 6 navel oranges (we often use cara cara oranges)
• 1 tbs orange flower water
• 1/8 to 1/4  tsp cinnamon
• 1 teaspoon clover honey
• pinch freshly grated nutmeg
• chopped fresh mint for garnish (the more the better…)
• pomegranate seeds (more is better.  We actually used 2 pomegranates for 8 oranges, I think)

Slice the oranges, catching the juice in the salad bowl.  Combine the orange flower water, cinnamon and honey and toss with the oranges.  Sprinkle with nutmeg and chill or serve at once, garnishing with mint and pomegranate.  This will hold for several hours in the refrigerator.

Merry Christmas from the cutest parts of our family

Luna is voluntarily inside the cat house D made out of carboard bricks.  He’s insisted that he wants to be an architect for at least the last six months.

Emo and Toru, almost touching but definitely still not cuddling …

my mom’s sweet seventieth

In late November my mom threw herself a big (and fun) birthday bash a few weeks before her actual birthday.  Little did she know, in June we had booked a three bedroom airbnb in the Fremont/Ballard area to surprise her.  We actually managed to pull off the surprise part too!

My dad cancelled her plans for the weekend, as she made them, and we all agreed to meet for dinner Friday night in Fremont.  The ploy for getting her from the restaurant to the airbnb was “let’s go look at Christmas lights.”  It was enough.  Jack, D and I go there first, and my parents and Becky drove up, at which point my mom saw us on the porch and was very confused, but then happy.

Saturday we walked around Ballard, ate lunch at Bitterroot BBQ and enjoyed not driving at all.  Jack was kind enough to take D home for a rest in the middle of the day to “check on the kittens” so that the rest of us could walk at an adult pace.  In the evening, Becky and I made a leg of lamb in my Intstant Pot and Myra continued the surprise by joining us for a nice dinner.

Sunday morning more good friends came for quiche and coffee cake.

Thanks for everything, Mom.

PEPS is still the best

Three years after our newborn PEPS group (see peps-is-best), I volunteered as a leader for another batch of new parents. It was a daunting time commitment of about four to five hours a week for twelve weeks.  I’m not going to pretend that I’m not excited to have my Monday nights back and my Monday nights’ sleep improved, but it was also a very rewarding experience.

As in the group Jack and I joined, it was an evening couples group.  That tends to mean very equal parenting and both parents going back to work during the twelve facilitad weeks.  Parenting a newborn is hard work for anyone, but it was nice to see the group supporting each other through similar challenges.  It made me realize how much we all need work-life balance role models.

Being a leader was of course different.  It was sometimes challenging to find the right balance between sharing my own stories while trying to fade out as they had more and more natural conversations.  PEPS is a very mature organization with great resources, so they have the group do a little survey in the middle.  Amusingly it was a split between feedback that I should fill up the occasional silences and that I should let them go on a little longer…

All in all, it was a great group and I am optimistic that they connected enough to keep the group going on their own.

Scotland steps

Did we mention that we walked a lot on our trip to Scotland?  I didn’t use the GPS feature on my watch, and based on the GPS routes Jack was able to download, we think that my watch overestimated our mileage because we were taking shorter than average steps on the wet rocky terrain.  In the table below, the steps below are accurate and the mileage is not.  However, we also deserve credit for carrying all of our stuff, all of the time, outside of Glasgow and Edinburough.

20ish miles!!    The 13.44 mile was actually harder for me becuase we started in the afternoon and my feet were recovering from having been soggy throughout the previous day.

The long distance walks we did were part of the West Highland Way (Tyndrum to Kinlochmore in three days)  and the full Dava Way (Grantown-on-Spey, to Dava, to Forres in two days).  The West Highland Way felt pretty remote.  We were very rarely in forrests and could see long distances.  Most of the time there was one road in sight, though it was often far accross a valley.  The first night we spent at a hotel that was one of a handful of buildings miles down a dirt road in the middle of nowhere.  The second night we stayed at a hostel that was next to a ski slope.  The Dava Way is a former railway route that has been improved by volunteers over the last 15-20 years.  We passed farms and some houses, but not a single business other than the Dava Schoolhouse B&B where we spent the night.  Our tranist routes are shown in orange in the map below.

In terms of packing, I think we did pretty well.  We each had about 2.5 outfits, our hiking boots and a second pair of lightweight sneakers.  My boots especially weren’t cut out for the wetness, because I sadly had to give away my nice heavy duty boots post-pregnancy.  Buying new boots before a week of walking is not a good plan.  We brought some boot dryers which didn’t make it with the voltage differences in Europe.  We also brought a water filter for peace of mind but never needed it.  I am kind of obsessed with having enough water while hiking, but in the cool weather I wasn’t as thirsty as usual.   If we did it again, I’d bring our gaiters and my hiking poles.  A lot of other people used poles and they really help offset the weight of the backpack, in addition to making it easier to walk on wet ground.  We booked airbnbs with washing machines at several points so our clothes weren’t too dirty. 

coupons

I quite enjoy using our Chinook book,  which is a collection of “local, sustainable coupons.”   This is our second year buying the annual book and the only downside is that the coupons expire on Halloween so they can’t be used for Christmas shopping.  We paid $14 for the book at Costco and saved  $146.

There are some high-flying coupons that can pay for the entire book in one go such as a buy-one-get-one free admission to the science center, but there are also plenty of grocery store, and drugstore coupons that are quite easy to use.  We also used a couple café coupons and several for Goodwill.

Though we didn’t use any this year there are coupons for nice bookstores and clothing stores and all kinds of other things.

They've totally got my number!